Bengali Wedding Rituals: An all-informative guide!

India is a country with numerous cultures and traditions. So of course, each wedding would hold its fair share of them. And with the number of wedding rituals our big fat weddings are accustomed to, you’re bound to get a bit confused! So this time, we take you through all the days of a Bengali wedding, their special rituals and customs, and all the traditional yet fun ceremonies. Scroll on for all the info you need!

 

PRE – WEDDING RITUALS

Adan Pradan

This is when the two families would get together along with a priest to match the couple’s horoscopes and decide an auspicious date for the marriage. Once it is finalised, gifts are exchanged.
Nowadays though, horoscope compatibility and such things are being checked online, making this ritual slightly obsolete.

Ashirbaad

Ashirbaad

This ceremony is done to signify the acceptance of the bride and groom by their respective in-laws. They bless the couple by putting husked rice and trefoil leaves on their heads and gift them gold ornaments or other gifts as a token of their love.

Ai Budo Bhaat

Ai Budo Bhaat

This refers to the last meal the bride and the groom eat at their respective parents’ houses. It’s an occasion of singing, dancing and enjoying authentic Bengali delicacies.

Gae Holud Tattva

Gae Holud Tattva

This is when the groom’s family visits the bride and gifts her with a new saree, henna, turmeric paste, beauty products, sweets and other culturally significant things.

Dodhi Mongol

This Bengali wedding ritual is performed by the bride and groom separately at the dawn of the wedding day.  They are each accompanied by a few married women of the family to a nearby pond to take blessings from Ganga. A pitcher of water from the pond is then brought home.

Holud Kota and Snan

Holud Kota and Snan

This is similar to Haldi ceremony that takes place among North Indians. Turmeric paste and oil is applied to the bride and groom.
After this ceremony, they bathe and wear new clothes.

Sankha Pola

Sankha Pola

It is a ritual where seven married women make the bride where red and white conch-shell bangles. The white is Sankha and the red is Pola.
 

 

WEDDING RITUALS

Bor Jatri and Bor Boron

The wedding procession led by the groom proceeds to the wedding venue.
The bride’s family welcomes the groom and his wedding party and performs an aarti.

Potto Bostro

Once the groom is seated in the chadnatolla (mandap), he is gifted new clothes by the maternal uncle of the bride, who would later perform the Sampradan ritual. These clothes are called Potto Bostro and are to be worn during the wedding rituals.

Saat Paak and Shubho Drishti

Saat Paak and Shubho Drishti

In this Bengali wedding ritual, the bride is carried to the mandap by her brothers/uncles on a low wooden stool called pidi. They walk around the groom seven times. This is known as Saat Paak.
During this time, the bride is to keep her eyes covered with a pair of betel leaves. Once the seven rounds are complete, she removes the leaves. The bride and groom then look at each other, in the presence of guests. This is Shubho Drishti.

Mala Badal

Mala Badal

While still seated on the pidi, the bride and grooms exchange garlands to symbolise the acceptance of one another.

Sampradan

Sampradan

The couple sits in the mandap while the person who performed the Potto Bostro ties their hands together with a sacred thread.

Yagna and Saat Paak / Saptapadi

Yagna and Saat Paak / Saptapadi

Yagna refers to the ritual where the priest recites Vedic Mantras while the couple sits in front of a holy fire. Then they are required to walk around the holy fire seven times. The end of the bride’s saree and the groom’s uttariya are tied in a knot while they do this.

Anjali

In this Bengali ritual, the brothers hands the bride some puffed rice which the couple then throws into the holy fire.

Sindoor Daan and Ghomta

Sindoor Daan and Ghomta

The groom puts sindoor on the bride’s hair parting and then covers her head with a new saree called Ghomta.
 

 

POST – WEDDING RITUALS

Bidaai

The bride bids farewell to her family and leaves for her new home along with her husband. As she departs, the bride throws fistful of rice backwards without turning. She does this to symbolically try to repay her family for bringing her up.

Bou Baran

Bou Baran

In this Bengali wedding ritual, the newly married couple is welcomed into the groom’s house. The mother of the groom washes the tyres of the vehicle in which they arrived. At the front door, the bride steps on a plate contained red lac dye and milk. As she steps in, she leaves her footprints on the floor.

Kaal Ratri

The couple sleeps in separate rooms on the night of the wedding as it is a belief that if they sleep together on the first night, their conjugal life would not be harmonious.

Bhou Bhaat

The next day, the bride cooks some dishes for her husband and the family. This is known as the bou-bhaat. The husband hands over a saree and a plate of food to his wife, pledging to take care of her throughout his life. This Bengali wedding ceremony is called bhaat kapor.

Phool Shojja

Phool Shojja

This is the couple’s first night together. The room and the bed is decorated with flowers. The two are expected to consummate their marriage.

 

*The main Bengali functions that are held at a venue are the Holud Kota, the wedding and the reception. 
The Holud Kota may or may not require a venue and can be held at the bride’s and groom’s house, depending upon personal choice and convenience. 

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Raunak & Sonali Delhi : This wedding was all about tons of fun, unbounded colour and of course, limitless love.

This wedding was all about tons of fun, unbounded colour and of course, limitless love. Sonali, our beautiful Delhi bride stole our hearts with how brilliantly she pulled off each of her gorgeous outfits. We also loved the vibrant mehndi decor and all the fun props. What to look out for: her pretty pink wedding lehenga as well as the stunning jewellery that consisted of gold, diamonds, jade and pearls!

 

Venue details-

Mehendi: Q'la, Mehrauli, New Delhi

Sangeet: Hotel Venus, Rudrapur

Wedding venue: Gurudwara

Reception: Taj Mahal hotel, New Delhi

 

Vendor details-

Photographer: Plush Affairs

Event planner and decorator: Eventfully Yours

Mehendi artist: Raju mehendi wala

Makeup artists: Noopur Arya

Invites: The entertainment design co., New Delhi

 

Outfit details-

BRIDE

Wedding and sangeet outfits: Asiana Couture

Mehendi dress: AUM Boutique

Engagement outfit: Ritu Kumar

Reception gown: Anjalee and Arjun Kapoor

GROOM

All outfits: Diwan Saheb, New Delhi

 

Jewellery: Shrihari Diagems, New Delhi

Shoes: Bridal Asia Exhibition

WedCraze – Your New & Exciting Wedding Planning and Social App

Grand is one word that comes to mind when you think about Indian weddings. Festive ambience, plenty of colours, sounds of laughter and delicious treats – we are surrounded by it all when we step into the big fat Indian wedding. For generations, we have had task lists being handed out to everyone for different things – food, transport, decor and so much more! To continue the festivity, relatives would gather a few weeks later to browse through pictures and gifts. With increasing distance and decreasing time, these are things of the past.

What if we told you, you could have all of that and more without multiple trips or extra time? Doesn’t it sound exciting? To simplify things, WedCraze has come up with a personalized wedding app that can help you do so many things, that we decided to make a list! Yes, that’s how many awesome features it offers!

 

Event Itinerary

Event Itinerary

Put up your event itinerary on your personal wedding app and make it easily accessible to your guests. No more multiple calls for conveying the detailed plan and schedule to every individual guest. The app also sends out reminders to all your guests for every event. How cool is that?

 

Introductions

Introductions

You can introduce the team Bride to team Groom via the WedCraze app. People can start interacting before the D-Day to make things more fun on the big day. Now, you need not ask your masi about the cute groomsman you noticed 😉 It is also a great opportunity for you and your loved ones to connect on one platform and just unwind!

 

Share Your Story

Share Your Story

A wedding in India sees friends and families coming together from across the world and nothing like this platform to share your story with them. Whether it’s about your meet-cute or your childhood love story, you can share it here with your loved ones. It’s also a great way for them to understand you two as a couple. And if you want any help, their content writer comes on board to weave magical words together for your love story!

 

Make Announcements

Make Announcements

Every wedding has those tiny change of plans which threatens to throw everyone into panic mode. Well, you can say goodbye to that! With WedCraze’s app, you can inform all your guests about any change in plans and keep them updated. It is also great for broadcasting any announcements.

 

Share Photos

Share Photos

Now, you can do away with various groups and you need not keep a tab on hashtags. All your guests can share their photos on the app and you can check out every candid and not-so-candid moment from the big day.

 

Memories For A Lifetime

Memories For A Lifetime

Well, a trip down the memory lane never hurt anyone and especially so when it’s about your most special day. Re-live the moments, share the jokes and browse through pictures all over again – everything is available on the app!

 

Safe & Secure

Safe & Secure

Unlike other mediums, the Wedcraze app is absolutely safe and secure. The photos and details can be seen by people you choose to add to the app. No more photos doing the rounds of social media without your permission!

 

Impressed? Here’s How You Can Get It:

Impressed? Here’s How You Can Get It:

The app is available on Google Play Store and App Store. Yes, it is that simple. Isn’t that great?

To know more, you can check them out here.

*Images Source: WedCraze

Joseph & Lidia Kerala : We are loving every bit of this wedding, which seems to have embraced Nature as the theme.

This beautiful cross-cultural wedding had us all swooning over the pictures. Mostly captured in monochrome, the images tend to immortalize the immense love the love birds have for each other. Their pre-wedding shoot captures the stunning background as well as the beautiful smiles. A simple church wedding with an overdose of love and laughter, brings together the couple beautifully. Simple rituals, ear-to-ear smiles, vintage car and loads of fun – we are loving every bit of this wedding, which seems to have embraced Nature as the theme.

Captured beautifully by my Visual Artistry .

Tips & Tricks To Nail The First Party After The Wedding!

So now that the wedding fervour has settled, it’s time for you to pamper all those people who showered so much love on you two! As newlyweds, people can be under a lot of pressure to host the perfect party. Well, that’s where we step in – to help you host the most awesome party ever! With just a few simple tricks you can fool your guests into thinking that you’re a pro at this (except maybe those who have spent the better part of their lives with you). Being a host is also about being friendly and warm, while making the other arrangements! So keep that smile on, follow these tips and you will a party that people won’t stop talking about!

 

Stick to Recipes You Know

Stick to Recipes You Know

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Although it doesn’t hurt to try out new things, it’s always a safe bet to stick to recipes that you have actually tried before! It maybe a simple one, but what makes it special is that you made it. And there are always many ways to amp up a recipe by a notch!

 

Prep The Day Before

Prep The Day Before

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May sound like an easy one but preparing the meal the night before or in the morning saves a lot of time! Time that you can spend with your loved ones. Your party won’t be the same if you are toiling away in the kitchen when the guests arrive.

 

Go Easy on Cocktail Recipes

Go Easy on Cocktail Recipes

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We know every fancy party has some delicious cocktails and you wouldn’t want to miss out. What if we told you that cocktails can be made with even two ingredients? Try simple recipes like Planter’s Punch or Screwdriver and your party will be equally awesome! And with friends and family, they may just end up chugging those beers!

 

Invest in Good Speakers

Invest in Good Speakers

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We are not saying blast off loud music but having background music always helps! Choose soothing music and set a playlist and let it play while people mingle. It fills in awkward silence, makes for great conversation starter and sets the mood for the party.

 

Always Have Options – Food and Drinks!

Always Have Options - Food and Drinks!

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While it’s okay to stick to a few starters and one main dish, always have options. Keep your friends’ preferences in mind and serve non-alcoholic drinks and vegetarian starters if needed.

 

Set Mood Lighting

Set Mood Lighting

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Use string lights, globe lights and bring out those lamps for the party! Nothing rocks a good party like some mood lighting! You can also use candles to enhance the lighting in your party area.

 

Use Disposable Plates or Mix n Match

Use Disposable Plates or Mix n Match

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You can get fancy disposable plates and other essentials that will only enhance the party decor. If you choose a theme, you could also find disposables that complement it. After all, you will also be tired after the party and you wouldn’t want to spend the next day cleaning up!

 

Always Have Dessert!

Always Have Dessert!

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Well, most guests do have a sweet tooth and it would be nice to end the party on a sweet note! If you are not much into baking, you can mix store-bought cakes with ice cream and syrups or coffee liquer and voila! You have a lip smacking dessert!

 

Make a Checklist

Make a Checklist

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Even if it’s not your thing, the one thing that can help you a lot is a checklist. On your checklist, make sure you note down all things you need and all the things you have to do. This is a great way to keep a track of things and ensure that everything is in place for the party. Have a separate guest list to make sure you don’t miss anyone.

 

Have Fun!

Have Fun!

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Well, how can it be your party, if you are too busy all the time? It’s important to catch up with your guests and let your hair down once the party has started. Don’t be too harsh on yourself – nobody will notice if the sauce is too thick. The important trick is to keep smiling!  

 

 

 

Skipping Honeymoon? Here are 10 Things To Do Around Mumbai Instead!

Busy schedules, short leave durations and mismatched schedules – sound familiar? Many couples these days are putting their honeymoon on hold to accommodate their busy work lives. While it’s totally cool to put it on hold till you actually have sufficient time, we were thinking why not make the most of whatever little time you have? Maybe you won’t be able to fit in a holiday, but there are so many things to around Mumbai, that every weekend can be an exciting one! So if you are skipping your honeymoon, or putting it on hold, here are 10 things you can do to make the days more memorable!

 

Nashik Wine Tasting

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Nothing exudes romance like some picturesque vineyards and the love of your life by your side. Sip on some wine, enjoy the cheese and learn all about wine making while soaking in the beauty of the place.

 

Night Trek

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Why not set out on an adventure with your best partner in crime? Many groups organize night treks to Kalsubai, Rajmachi and other peaks and you can join them if you are newbies. This weekend activity is as exciting as it is romantic. Nothing like overlooking the beautiful valleys on a moonlit night!

 

Paragliding

Paragliding

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With the love for adventure increasing among people, many groups are coming up to satiate the wanderlust and need for adventure. A short ride away from Mumbai, you will find places that offer paragliding! Kamshet and Virar are two such nearby places where you can head for some weekend adventure with your partner!

 

Food Trail

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If you two are foodies, nothing like a food trail in SoBo to make that lazy weekend an exciting one! Mumbai and its lanes has many well-hidden gems that serve lip-smacking food in different cuisines – from Goan to international and everything in between.

 

River Rafting

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Kolad, a beautiful place near Alibaug,  offers river rafting, zip lining and other adventure sports. If you wish to stay, there are many quaint homestays that you can check out. Adrenalin pumping activities followed by a sumptuous lunch of local cuisine and your spouse by your side – could things get any better?

 

Sailing

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Did you know that you could go sailing into the Arabian Sea from the Gateway of India? They can also teach you a thing or two about sailing in the sea! While you enjoy the cool breeze and soak in the sights, the guide can fill you in with the historical details. If you are more into parties, you can also check out some of the cruise ships!

 

Hot Air Balloon Ride in Lonavala

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While the place is better known for its valleys and viewpoints, why not take up this opportunity and enjoy all the lovely sights while floating hundreds of feet above the ground? Romantic, adventurous and short – everything you need to get that weekend rolling!

 

Camping

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Wake up to the sound of birds chirping (okay maybe your partner snoring!) and take a quick dip in the river. Doesn’t it sound like a dream? Bhandara is a very popular place for camping and this is one activity you must try with your spouse. Beach camping is also popular in and around Mumbai and you get an array of options to choose from for your trip!

 

Music Festival

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Mumbai and Pune are home to some of the best music festivals in India and no time like the present to enjoy them. Remember all those times you wanted to go but couldn’t find people for the event? Yes, now that you have a permanent companion, wouldn’t it be great to attend all those cool festivals you always wanted to? If concerts are not your thing, try stand up comedies or plays!

 

Farm Stay

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Many places around Mumbai and Thane offer rustic farm stays where you can learn about farming, enjoy an organic meal, go fishing or just enjoy a laid back day. Go fishing, swimming or get your hands dirty by actually farming! Follow it up with a delicious home-cooked meal and a post lunch siesta, cuddling with your spouse, and you will be ready to take on the week to come!